Wax Play

For a story I recently finished for a upcoming erotica call I did some play with wax and learned some interesting things I thought I might share. Keep in mind my practical knowledge of wax for pleasure is limited, bit I did find some interesting places for information on wax play in case anyone else would like to give it a go.

Tip #1 Not all waxes are alike.

This is a very important fact to remember. Unless you are heavy into the pain over the pleasure aspect of this type of sexual play, do not, I repeat do not use pure beeswax. It heats at a very hot temperature and can cause serious burns, which I doubt you or your loving partner would appreciate. Soy is useable for safe wax play as is paraffin (non dyed) since both melt at low temperatures.

Tip #2 Prepare for a mess

Don’t do your wax play on your best silk sheets on your linen tablecloth. You want to be able to focus on your lover’s safety and pleasure, not what the wax might be ruining as it melts all over everything. Place something under your lover to catch the wax, but that is still comfortable to lay on. Also remember to have a stable surface for your candle or melting pot (fondue pots work great). If you don’t, you will have worse things than a mess to deal with.

Clean up is another concern. The best tip I’ve seen is the use of oil on your lover’s body (which can be fun on its own) so that the removal of the wax after it cools is easier. Now if your lover enjoys the sensation of the pulling on her skin and hair, then forget adding the step of the oil.

Tip #3 Safety

Even as you are focusing on you sexual play, you still must remain in control so you can keep your lover and yourself safe. Whether for heating the pot, or lighting a candle, you are still dealing with fire in some fashion. Keep a fire extinguisher and a burn oriented first aid kit close at hand. Feel free to let your lover fall into the bliss of the experience, but remember they are depending on you to keep them safe. You must never break that trust.

Even before you begin, always test the wax on yourself, preferably the soft part of your inner arm. It should be very warm but not too hot. If you are using a pot to heat the wax (likely a good idea your first time out) test the temp with a candy thermometer. Between 110 and 140 degrees is a good range. If you are using a candle use the pillar kind so the wax can pool on the top and cool a bit, or one of those super soft drippy candles (can be found online) like they used to use in the decorative wine bottles.

Tip #4 Application of the wax

It’s best to move the wax around as you drizzle it over your lover's body. If you leave it drip in one place you can desensitize that area which defeats the whole purpose. Don’t rush things. Explore and experiment, especially if this is your first time doing wax play. See what your lover likes most and develop you own personal style of working the wax.

Pour the wax from high to add to the cooling time before it touches the skin and move the ladle or candle around as you drizzle the wax on your lover’s body. If she wants it hotter, then move the wax closer before pouring. Learning what she likes is half the fun, isn’t it?

Have a good time and remember to be safe. If any of you have experience with wax play I’d be glad to hear about it. For fun, here’s a wax play picture and a video you all might enjoy.



MaxWax™ ~ Skin Preparation for Wax Play

The above video would be a very good investment if there’s a full version available (you may need to email mail her about that) and if you are seriously interested in getting into wax play for the first time, and even if you are experienced in it. I admit to being very impressed with this clip and of her.